Everything in life is not going to be easy, but everything in life is going to be alright.
A few months ago, nothing in my life was working.
In my personal life, I lost a few friends – people whom I’ve trusted my life with. My relationship broke down and the fairy tale ending that I imagined turned out to be a horror story.
At work, I was getting stuck in a rut. I was not climbing the career ladder and I felt that my abilities were underutilised.
In my pursuit of further knowledge, I was hanging by a fine thread. My university marks were not reflective of the efforts that I was putting in.
To top it all off, my baby, the charity fundraiser that I was organizing and had been devoting all my time and energy, all my heart and soul to, in the hopes of trying to do goodwill for the community and contribute to make the world a better place, had to be pushed back because it was not getting the attention and support from the people and organisations I relied on.
The event, I thought, was going to give me a life meaning. Therefore, I stuck to my guns to stay away from focusing on business and profits. Instead, I chose to break the status quo and focus the benefits on the community. Alas! All the hard work that was put into it boomeranged upon me, in ways I did not foresee. Indeed, the old saying is true, ‘no good deed goes unpunished.’
I felt like I let a lot of people down – the charities that I promised to help, the people who believed in the cause, and worst of all, I beat myself up for thinking that I was such a failure.
It was one of the lowest points in my life. However, I didn’t have even an iota of energy to sulk in self-pity. I couldn’t cry any longer over spilled milk, or maybe, I just couldn’t cry any harder.
So I made the decision to reflect, be self-aware, turn my life around, start fresh and focus on finding solutions to my problems.
I thought long and hard. I realised that life will never be perfect.
People come and go.
What you do for work does not define you.
Marks only reflect knowledge, not intellect.
At the end of the day, all that remains is who you really are, your principles, your values, and what you stand for.
Over time, I eliminated my stressors.
One of the best things I did was to break from misery, be independent, be responsible for my own actions, and learn that happiness comes from within. I moved closer to work in Brisbane and leased an apartment which overlooks the city.
I woke up one morning, made myself a cup of coffee, and stared at my windows. The magnificent Brisbane skyline and the luminescent Story Bridge brimmed such a quintessential beauty.
I’ve always wanted to live in New York – the concrete jungle where, many say, dreams are made of. But actually, I may have even better, which is living in New Farm. I became ashamed. I realised I am living a life that many other people can only dream of.
I’ve forgotten to be grateful. I have roof over my head, fridge full of food, clothes to wear, bed to sleep in. I even have the opportunity to go to university, earn a second Bachelor’s degree, and realise my dream of becoming a lawyer.
Amidst all these, I have the time to ponder upon my problems, and a time to come up with positive solutions, and that time is a gift in itself.
Everything in our lives is not going to be easy, but if we keep a positive attitude and learn to be grateful, we will have the courage to withstand our life’s challenges, and let me tell you, everything, is going to be alright.